Before I begin, let me start off by saying that I am
a huge fan of SAFE CONSENTUAL SEX BETWEEN ADULTS. Please use these tips,
tricks, and ideas responsibly.
I am all for doing new and exciting things in the
bedroom, but I don’t always have the money to do the extravagant over the top
ideas that I have. So I have to get creative. If you follow me on social media
then you know that I often talk about a “black box” that I keep hidden in my
bedroom (so the kids won’t find it). This “Black Box” is where I store all of
my adult goodies. I didn’t go out and spend an arm and a leg to build my “Black
Box”. I didn’t build my “Black Box” overnight. Most of the items in my “Black
Box” are things that I already had in the house or they were purchased at the
Dollar Store or Wal-Mart. Your “Black Box” should include things that you and
your partner are into.
For those of you who do not have a “Black Box”, let
me help you get a few ideas so you can build your own.
Condoms:
There are plenty of condoms to choose from. Flavored condoms, Ribbed for her
pleasure, Colored condoms, Latex condoms, Lambskin condoms (although lambskin
“feels” better, they are NOT as effective against STD’s or PREVENTING
pregnancy), and Female condoms.
Black/Red
Light Bulb: You can find this at your local
Wal-Mart between $2.00 and $3.00
Candles/Tea
Lights: I usually get the unscented ones from the Dollar
Store.
Blindfold:
You can use a scarf you already have on hand or you can find and use a sleep
mask from the Dollar Store (found in the bath/beauty section).
Baby
Oil:
You can also get this from your local Dollar Store if you don’t have any on
hand.
Wig:
I ordered a wig online once that I was not too fond of once I received it. So I
wear it when I want to come to bed as “someone else”.
Lubricants:
Like the many varieties of condoms, there are a variety of lubricants. Water
based, Warming, Flavored, Sensitive skin, and His & Her.
Music:
Gone are the days of the slow jam tapes and mixed cd’s. Now everyone has music
on their iPods, phones & MP3 players. Make a playlist of the songs you want
to play during your “adult extracurricular activities, or create a station on
Pandora.
Heels:
Ladies, let’s be honest, we all have that one pair of heels that we thought
were super cute/sexy and we bought them not knowing that they hurt like hell.
Now they are sitting in your closet collecting dust. These are your “Black Box”
heels. You won’t be wearing them long, and if you are… you will be looking up
at them (wink).
Lingerie:
If you have some already, that’s great. If not then don’t feel as if you have
to run out and buy some. Let’s use what you already have in the house. Do you
have matching panties and bras, your lovers button down shirt, a wife beater and
boy shorts, a t-shirt that comes down a bit past your waist to your upper
thigh? Pair one of these with your heels and you will be good to go. If you do
not have any of these items, then your heels and your smile will work wonders
(wink).
Perfume:
We get perfume and body spray for every holiday and just because. Some we wear
daily, some we don’t wear at all. The ones that you don’t wear at all can be
your “Black Box” perfume. If you only wear that scent for your extra-curricular
activities then every time your mate smells that scent they will think of you
and be ready to “play”.
These are just a few ideas to help you get started. Come
back next week and I will tell you about the “goodies” to get for your “Black Box”.
What
are the must have items for your “black box”?
- Stacie Stiletto
