The Decline of the Mistress

The Decline of the Mistress

This topic has been on my mind for a while now. Over last 10 years, maybe even longer, I have witnessed the down fall of THE MISTRESS and a new era emerging… THE SIDE CHICK.

Back when our grandparents and great-grandparents were in their prime and living life to the fullest, THE MISTRESS had morals and values to a certain extent. It was already bad enough that she was getting the “short end of the stick”, but she was not going to allow her “Man” to give her the short end of the stick across the board.

THE MISTRESS had certain requirements that had to be met in order for her to “play her position”. One major requirement was that she needed her own home, if she didn’t have one already. If she did have her own home, she needed to make sure that her rent/mortgage and utilities were paid. How can she focus on being his “relief/place of peace” if she was stressed and worried about where she was going to lay her head tomorrow?

If by chance they were to have children together, then her children needed to be provided for. I’m not talking about your basic generic “child support”. Her children needed to have the same “luxuries” his other children had.

Fast forward to the generation of THE SIDE CHICK and my first thought is “MY, HOW THE MIGHTY HAVE FALLEN”. This new breed of “SIDE CHICK” has no morals, no values, and no self-respect.

(I know what you’re saying… “how could they if they are “side chicks”?!)

THE SIDE CHICK is doing a disservice to herself. How do you allow yourself to be a sexual playground for someone who will do nothing for you?

These 2014 “side chicks” are only getting a “good time” and some of them are barely getting that!

Ladies are becoming “side chicks” to guys who won’t even buy them a Happy Meal.

Ladies are becoming “side chicks” to guys who won’t help them change a flat tire when they are broke down on the side of the road.

Ladies are becoming “side chicks” and getting pregnant by guys who are already not taking care and providing for the children they already have.

 “The Side Chick” comes from a “prestigious” background, “THE MISTRESS”. Don’t dishonor your heritage. Make your ancestors proud. Rise from the lowly ashes of the “side chick” and emerge like the Phoenix as a Mistress!

-Stacie Stiletto

How to Build Your Black Box on a Budget

Before I begin, let me start off by saying that I am a huge fan of SAFE CONSENTUAL SEX BETWEEN ADULTS. Please use these tips, tricks, and ideas responsibly.

I am all for doing new and exciting things in the bedroom, but I don’t always have the money to do the extravagant over the top ideas that I have. So I have to get creative. If you follow me on social media then you know that I often talk about a “black box” that I keep hidden in my bedroom (so the kids won’t find it). This “Black Box” is where I store all of my adult goodies. I didn’t go out and spend an arm and a leg to build my “Black Box”. I didn’t build my “Black Box” overnight. Most of the items in my “Black Box” are things that I already had in the house or they were purchased at the Dollar Store or Wal-Mart. Your “Black Box” should include things that you and your partner are into.

For those of you who do not have a “Black Box”, let me help you get a few ideas so you can build your own.

Condoms: There are plenty of condoms to choose from. Flavored condoms, Ribbed for her pleasure, Colored condoms, Latex condoms, Lambskin condoms (although lambskin “feels” better, they are NOT as effective against STD’s or PREVENTING pregnancy), and Female condoms.

Black/Red Light Bulb: You can find this at your local Wal-Mart between $2.00 and $3.00

Candles/Tea Lights: I usually get the unscented ones from the Dollar Store.

Blindfold: You can use a scarf you already have on hand or you can find and use a sleep mask from the Dollar Store (found in the bath/beauty section).

Baby Oil: You can also get this from your local Dollar Store if you don’t have any on hand.

Wig: I ordered a wig online once that I was not too fond of once I received it. So I wear it when I want to come to bed as “someone else”.

Lubricants: Like the many varieties of condoms, there are a variety of lubricants. Water based, Warming, Flavored, Sensitive skin, and His & Her.

Music: Gone are the days of the slow jam tapes and mixed cd’s. Now everyone has music on their iPods, phones & MP3 players. Make a playlist of the songs you want to play during your “adult extracurricular activities, or create a station on Pandora.

Heels: Ladies, let’s be honest, we all have that one pair of heels that we thought were super cute/sexy and we bought them not knowing that they hurt like hell. Now they are sitting in your closet collecting dust. These are your “Black Box” heels. You won’t be wearing them long, and if you are… you will be looking up at them (wink).

Lingerie: If you have some already, that’s great. If not then don’t feel as if you have to run out and buy some. Let’s use what you already have in the house. Do you have matching panties and bras, your lovers button down shirt, a wife beater and boy shorts, a t-shirt that comes down a bit past your waist to your upper thigh? Pair one of these with your heels and you will be good to go. If you do not have any of these items, then your heels and your smile will work wonders (wink).

Perfume: We get perfume and body spray for every holiday and just because. Some we wear daily, some we don’t wear at all. The ones that you don’t wear at all can be your “Black Box” perfume. If you only wear that scent for your extra-curricular activities then every time your mate smells that scent they will think of you and be ready to “play”.

These are just a few ideas to help you get started. Come back next week and I will tell you about the “goodies” to get for your “Black Box”.

What are the must have items for your “black box”?

-       Stacie Stiletto